Children are a worry even before they’re actually made
I’m quite the realist. I do believe that the future is going to be great, but I always view it with cautious positivity. Nothing wrong, I guess.
I have been in a relationship for five years, which might seem a lot, but they wizzed by. Now I’m engaged but we still have nothing to our name, not even a date for the wedding and yet I already started thinking about our kids.
Premature? Nah, just realistic. I see her as a great wife and an even more amazing mum. I’m blessed.
Now that kids seem to be in the equation, here come the worries.
One of the most obvious thing to worry about is the baby’s health. It’s like a box of chocolates, you never know what you gonna get.
If I had to pray to the Gods, that would me my only desire, healthy kids.
My worries don’t stop there. More bulge out, just like an old fat beer belly.
My wife is as important to me as any offspring of mine. Will it be a great toll on her? Will I every have to choose between the two? The thought makes me feel frail.
I posed another question to a friend of mine at work, “I don’t feel like a father. Will I be up to it?“.
The previously teenage mother replied, ” Nobody is ever prepared, it’s a challenge, just go for it. Paternal instincts will take over.”.
It is truly a huge commitment, one that together with your partner will share all the burdens and joys of it all. At least, that is what I strive for.
My greatest fear, will I still have time for myself? After a newborn, everything seem to revolve around them.
Any yet, recently I watched my brother in-law in-action and he made me notice that you’ll still chase your dreams no matter what. You’ll still have your intellectual discussions, iota of free time and a set of different priorities that will forge you into a happy, married father.
Just like in love, if it’s meant to be everything will fall in place, living happily ever after.